I am going to be honest with you, I was quite overwhelmed after giving birth to Luna. I did not have the idea nor thought about how it could get difficult, no, stressful taking care of a newborn. I thought it would be a breeze as she would just simply sleep, eat, poop/pee, repeat… but I surely did not expect that there will be a lot of crying, a lot of carrying (plus singing & slight bouncing), and almost 28 days of sleepless nights.
Nobody warned me.
For the first 28 days, you can really feel that you are a new parent. Of course, there are so many basic things that you are still not aware of such as: the right way to carry, feeding, and burping. Changing her diaper was and still is therapeutic for P and I. We really enjoy doing it. Our helps (a.k.a. our guardian angels) do the bathing.
Despite being so tired, weak, had a stiff neck for 2 weeks, and was told by my doctor that I was having hypertension – I did not stop falling in love with her everyday. Every time she sleeps I cannot stop staring at her, even more when she sleeps next to her papa. Like what I’ve said before, I’d do anything for her. One thing I forgot to write though is I’d do anything for her and her papa.
We are not going to hide the fact that the husband I and I get a lot of support from our family (the helps are also of course included as family), and our friends. There were nights that P and I really needed a maximum of 2 nights of full sleep especially when we found out that I had hypertension. Our family took over Luna and quite had an experience with her.
We are very thankful for our helps for being there for us for the first months with Luna, it certainly gave us room to balance our family, work, and social life. They are very good with her and treat her as their own child. I always smile to see Luna happy when the Dorotas take care of her. I want her to love them as much I do to them. One of the helps has been taking care of me since I was in 4th grade! How lucky am I to have her help me take care of our child? Extremely lucky and blessed.
Let me share you some simple tips on surviving with a newborn so you won’t have to feel too overwhelmed:
- Talk to your partner to do shifts when it comes to taking care of the baby at night
- Take care of the baby together on weekends
- If you can, get some sleep when your baby is sleeping
- Reach out for help at least for the first 28 days
- Take your vitamins regularly
- Relax for a few hours per day, you deserve to unwind!
- Breastfeed, breastfeed, and breastfeed
- Go shopping.
I would like to hear from you on how you balance work and having a newborn child! Let us know your wonderful stories. Happy November!